Is it possible? Could it be true? Over the last week, Emma and Kate have slept through the night about 3-4 times! Like real 6-7 hour stretches!
Sleep in our house over the last three months has been a rare commodity. Looking back at my state of mind during month 1 and month 2, I was most likely sleep walking half of the time. The girls are okay sleepers, it’s just the timing. Trying to get them both to sleep at the same time is the part that is so hard – naps during the day, falling asleep at night, etc. It seems like the golden rule is that if one is up, the other is sleeping! We’re still working on that…
Here are some updates on the girls these days!
Kate has become quite a drama queen (in the best way possible of course ). She still loves to be held and rocked “a certain way”. She is a total daddy’s girl and lights up when she sees him. She makes a lot of sounds and when she smiles, it’s heart-melting! Her little tongue sticks out just a little when she smiles really big. Her favorite thing to do is listen to singing and music. She is a great sleeper at night (crossing my fingers this stays true), but man does she fight it at first! She’s a feisty one and I can tell she doesn’t want to miss out on anything. Her hair is still really dark and she still has dark blue-grey eyes.
Emma is quite the explorer these days! She is definitely a talker and really likes to “have a conversation” with you, cooing back as if she knows just what you’re talking about. She loves to sit up on my lap and just stare and talk. She’s very determined and excited to look at everything. I can tell she really wishes she could sit up by herself, but she has a few more months before that. I’m pretty sure she would get up and walk if she could though! She also loves standing on your lap while you hold her arms. She’s a strong one for sure. Emma has been the one still waking in the middle of the night, but it seems lately she might be catching the drift that night time is for sleeping Her light brown hair is filling in more now and her eyes are still blue.
During pregnancy, you try to prepare yourself to become a new mom: reading books, getting advice from friends and stocking your house with all the right baby gear. I even read special twin books that try to prepare you for the craziness of twins. But honestly, I don’t think anything could have prepared me for the sleepless, wild, whirlwind that my life became once the girls arrived.
Since Emma and Kate are my first kids, I know nothing other than handling the craziness of newborn twins. It’s not easy becoming a MoM (mom of multiples). The girls are only 12 weeks old, but I thought I’d share a little bit about my experience during the last three months and advice for those expecting double trouble.
*Let me preface this by saying that this is just my experience and I’m by no means saying this is the only way. It’s just what works for our family
One Up, Both Up
I think this was the best piece of advice I ever received while I was pregnant. I would’ve loved to feed on demand, especially since I chose to nurse, but for us it’s simply too hard to find a moment of peace when the girls are not on the same schedule. The girls eat every three hours (except at night) which we started from the day we got home from the hospital. Now, I live and die by our schedule. There have been many times when visitors ask, “are you sure you want to wake a sleeping baby?” And the answer is a resounding “YES!” in our house. If one wakes up to eat, so does the other. If we let the girls wake up when they wanted to, we would literally never sleep more than one hour stretches during the day or night. Now their sleep schedules are starting to sync up even more since they’re getting bigger!
Cover the Basics
When a miracle happens and the babies are sleeping at the same time, 1) sleep or 2) eat (or eat while pumping if you’re nursing). Especially in the first month or two. Yes, there are a million other tasks to be done – oh like laundry, bottle washing, re-stocking diapers, etc. – but take care of the essentials first! Without eating or sleeping, you can’t function. I learned quickly that I become a totally different person when I’m going on less than 2-3 hours of sleep (yes, that’s total in the beginning). And it’s even harder to take care of your kids when you’re overly exhausted and starving.
Do what works
You’ll get advice from everywhere: books, family, friends, online forums and blogs like mine In the end, do what works for you. It will save your sanity from trying to do everything perfect or the “right way”. Plus, every baby is different – and you’ll notice that even more with twins.
I swear by my Fisher Price Rock and Plays (they’re basically movable bassinets) and my Boppy Baby Lounger. With two babies to feed and hold, trust me, you need more than one safe place to set one twin down. Have options in every room – that way you’re not tied to one place in the house all day. Emma and Kate never really took to a swing, but I hear some kids love those!
You’re probably going to hear this over and over again during your twin pregnancy, but I can’t emphasize it enough. Literally, make a calendar and jot people’s names down for when they’ll be coming by. I preferred to have my close family help for the first month (I was a little fragile and on an emotional roller coaster to say the least).
If others offer to help, ask them if they’d be open to dropping off dinner or a frozen casserole. Or picking up diapers/wipes for you at the store. If you’re not ready for visitors yet (I know that in my case, I just wanted to sleep whenever I had a moment in the beginning), be honest and say that now is not a good time and you’ll be resting with the babies. They’ll understand.
I’m incredibly fortunate to have a wonderful family and group of friends who have gone above and beyond to help me. My mom is a saint and I have an awesome mother-in-law who came to stay with me for 10 days. They both helped me feed the girls, cooked dinners, ran errands, etc. I don’t know what I would do without them! I also had a good family friend who was in college and ended up helping me for a few hours three days a week during the first month. It was a sanity saver to have her at the house. If you don’t have family close by, seriously consider hiring a baby nurse for the day or night. It will be the best money you ever spent!
Embrace the Insanity
At some point, you’ll encounter this scenario: you’re by yourself, have one twin on the changing table with a giant blowout diaper and the other twin screaming her head off wanting to be held.
Take a deep breath.
This common scenario could send anyone over the top. But it’s bound to happen. I’ll admit the first time it happened to me, I cried right along with Kate who was balling her eyes out while I gave Emma a bath and soaked her clothes (yes, her blowout diaper was THAT bad.) But once I got things under control, and everyone settled down again, I felt like I could conquer anything if I could handle that situation. Mike and I have definitely looked at each other and just laughed at how crazy our house is sometimes. Thank god we both have a sense of humor.
Set up Stations
The above scenario is the exact reason why it’s crucial to have “stations” around your house. Stock these areas with diapers, wipes, two changes of clothes, two blankets and burp cloths. We have these stations downstairs in our living room, in the nursery and in our bedroom. It will come in handy when you have a crisis on your hands and can’t leave the other twin alone.
Same thing goes for your diaper bag – always keep it “ready to go” so you don’t have to rush around after you’ve got both babies into their car seats. It takes one less step out of the process.
I thought I knew what multi-tasking was… until I had Emma and Kate. They have taught me what true multi-tasking really means. I can’t count the number of times when I’m holding Kate in my arms, rocking Emma’s bassinet with my foot, while I’m waiting for a bottle to warm. Eating dinner? More like forking food, while holding Kate and shushing into her ear. It’s a blessing when there is a moment where I can just do one thing or focus on just one of the girls.
My advice? Try to have something accomplished in the background while you’re caring for the twins. Pop a frozen casserole in the oven, start the crockpot, get the laundry going, or run the dishwasher when you’re able to step away for a minute.
With the babies, consider putting one next to you in a lounger to feed or entertain while you nurse or bottle feed the other (yes, I’ve done that more than a few times).
Look for Simple Solutions
There are some tasks that take forever – no matter what. Like folding laundry. Too bad there isn’t a robot to do that yet! But modern technology does offer some shortcuts these days. Take washing bottles for instance. I found that if I wash bottles after every feed and load them into my Cuisinart sterilizer right away, I never have to stop and spend 30 minutes washing a ton of bottles or wait for a full load in the dishwasher. Our Cuisinart bottle warmer has also sped up our feeding preparation. Trust me, when you have two screaming babies waiting to eat, you need something quick! I’ve also relied on Diapers.com for diapers, wipes and much more when I simply can’t load up both the twins to make it to Babies R’ Us. Plus, they offer free 2-day shipping for the first three months! A true lifesaver in the first few weeks.
Marry an Amazing Guy (or find a fabulous nanny!)
I knew before we had kids that I married a wonderful guy, but he is such an amazing dad, too. As I’ve said before, I couldn’t do this without him. He helps with every feeding (when he’s not working), diapers, shushing, rocking, laughing, playing, getting up in the middle of the night, AKA everything! We both work, so we also just hired a fabulous nanny (in addition to my mom) to help us. Having an awesome set of second hands all the time is absolutely necessary in my book.
That’s the extent of my “twinsdom” for now – but I’ll be sure to share my advice as I learn along the way! If you’re a MoM, please introduce yourself in the comments. I’d love to hear your tricks of the trade!
Today was my first official day back at work! Three months went by much faster than I ever expected – a whirlwind doesn’t even begin to describe my maternity leave. I had grand plans to blog all the time once the girls arrived, but being alone with two babies most of the time… let me tell you… “free time” doesn’t really exist! Even with tons of help from family and friends, most of my “free time” has been taken up by eating and sleeping (and pumping).
In the last few weeks, I’ve been able to get the girls on somewhat of a regular schedule and into a good routine to make the transition back to work easier (not sure that’s the right word, maybe more manageable?). The girls aren’t quite sleeping through the night, but we’re getting closer! It still takes two to feed at night in order for either Mike or I to get decent sleep. Yes, I married an amazing guy who helps with everything, all the time!! I really couldn’t do it without him or my mom.
I am also very fortunate to have a job with the flexibility to work from home. My wonderful mom is watching Emma and Kate two days a week and I found a great nanny who will be helping out the other half of the work week.
Here’s a peek at the the girls who were peacefully sleeping when I logged on this morning …
Well, I’m way behind on my monthly update post about the girls! In fact, we’re halfway through the month. The photos shown here were taken on their two month mark, so I did remember to do one thing!
Here are some updates on the girls and their personalities. It’s such an exciting time to really see them come into their own.
She loves to be held and bounced to sleep. We call her Queen Kate because she wants it her way all the time. We joke about her list of demands: “Get my milk layperson!” Or “Did I say you could put me down yet?” But boy when she smiles she couldn’t be any sweeter or look more innocent. Another nickname we’ve given her is meerkat because she loves to pop up on your shoulder and scan the room. She’s a very curious girl and loves staring at you while you talk to her. Her hair is still very dark and she’s out of newborn clothes weighing 10.5 pounds at our pediatrician check-up.
Emma has settled down a lot during the last month. We found out she has acid reflux, so we started her on medication after some very scary choking incidents. The good news is that she is what they call a happy spitter since she’s still gaining weight. She has been wearing three month clothes since the two month mark! She smiles every day now and it melts my heart every time. She loves making noises, listening to lullabies and testing out her own voice. Her hair is turning strawberry blonde for now and she weighs in 11.5 pounds!
Next up, a post about the things I’ve learned being a new MoM (mom of multiples) in the last two and a half months – stay tuned!
Well I’m two days behind, but we’ve reached the one month mark! Every day has been beautifully exhausting with little rest and a lot of diapers (we go through about 20 a day between the two girls!) I figured while they are both sleeping – a very rare occurrence lately – I would share some quick thoughts on both of the girls and their developing personalities. They both have their own quirks and I’ve even learned their different cries. Our next check-up is on Friday and I’m hoping the girls have continued to gain weight. I’ve also reached my first nursing goal of one month (whohoo!) and we’re continuing to supplement as needed.
In the hospital, I really thought Kate was going to be feisty. She has definitely fulfilled that prediction, but also turned into a snuggly, sensitive girl. She loves to be held and stare at you while she dozes off to sleep. She hates being cold, and is not a fan of her bath or of getting changed. Her hair has stayed a dark, brownish color and she reached 6.2 lbs at our last appointment. She is small, but her appetite is getting bigger every day.
I was amazed at how laid back Emma was in the first two weeks. Let’s just say that didn’t last very long. She loves to coo and be awake for the party whenever she can. She fights sleep and tries to keep her eyes open even when she’s beyond tired. She likes her bath and breaking out of her swaddles to put her hands above her head. Emma’s hair is still a lighter shade of brown and I wouldn’t be surprised if it continues to lighten up. She has a huge appetite lately and reached over 7 lbs at our last appointment. She is almost out of her newborn clothes now and into 0-3 months.
Looking to August, I can’t wait to see what the next few weeks bring. Hopefully, more smiles and longer stretches of sleep (we’ll see). Plus, I’m hoping to pass my 6-week surgery check-up and get cleared for carrying over 15 lbs (which would also mean I can carry the two girls’ car seats at once and spend more time outside the house!)
It’s been four weeks since Emma and Kate were born – which is so hard for me to believe! The days have gone by slow, but the weeks have flown by.
The girls have definitely changed everything since we’ve been home – but the biggest adjustment for me has been sleep deprivation. The girls nurse every three hours and it takes about an hour and sometimes an hour and a half to feed both of them. So I’m basically living in three hour increments. Everyone says sleep when the baby sleeps, but usually one of them is up in between the feeding periods now. It’s amazing how one can function on little to no sleep.
I quickly realized I needed extra help when Mike went back to work. Mainly, just an extra pair of hands and set of eyes to hold and watch when I’m busy with one of them. Fortunately, my mom has been irreplaceable. I also have a friend who is helping me three times a week for a few hours until she goes back to college.
We’re focusing on the little victories every day – like me taking a shower or getting a two hour uninterrupted nap. Plus, we reached our biggest goal this week: getting the girls back to their birth weights! Once I’m cleared by my doctor from the surgery (hopefully at 6 weeks), I’ll be able to lift over 10-15 lbs again and will be able to do so much more than I am now, too. Lots to look forward to, but for now we’re taking it day by day!